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Bullying

Guidance for Parents

Bullying is best defined as discrimination by a stronger entity against a weaker entity. Although
usually involving children, bullying has no limits of age, creed, or race, and can affect anyone.

Recognition

Generally, a child will not not tell anyone they are being bullied, often until it is too late,
especially not an adult, unless there has been a prior relationship of trust built up. Some incidents
of bullying in teenage years have resulted in death and suicide, and yet the child was still too
afraid to speak out. Many teenagers and middle-graders will have mood swings, but it is really
important as a parent, caregiver or concerned adult friend, that you monitor any out of character
mood changes, or behavior changes and speak to the child concerned as soon as possible. Being
available, being observant, and being a friend, can be your biggest methods of support for a child
in difficulty.

Confidence

A confident child will shrug off or counteract bullying, and the bully will usually loose interest
soon enough. It's no fun bullying someone that doesn't bite. Ensuring a child is sure of
themselves, secure in their own self image, accepting of their abilities and disabilities, will mean
they are less likely to be a victim of bullying, or if they are, they have the ability to deflect the
attack and turn the situation to their advantage.

Support

If a child comes to you for support, it is vital that the situation is handled correctly. Incorrect
handling can result in more subtle and more vicious bullying, which could be much more
emotionally damaging than straight physical attacks. If it is the first time you have dealt with the
issues seek advice and research the subject carefully. Both generically and personally, don't jump
in feet first, especially if you are emotionally involved. Time taken to search a solution usually
will result in a better solution for all.

Prevention

Start early by instilling confidence and trust with your child. Ensure they have a high self worth,
and a high level of trust in you to share problems without fear of repercussions. This is harder
than it sounds, but much easier than it is for a child to put up with bullying silently. If you start
early and keep practicing, it will have rewards.

Links to Bullying Support Sites
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bullying
http://www.bullying.org
www.bullying.co.uk
http://www.stopbullying.gov